Tue, July 31, 2012
The Love You Make is the Love You Take - A Tribute to Dennis
The Love you take is the Love you make - John Lennon
 
This was not a week to blog, too much distraction and life happening all around.

This was a week of saying goodbye and hello to a dear friend. Goodbye to his smile that is like no other - that greeted me at countless social events. I came to seek him out, with apologies to others in the room, but he, Dennis was the one on my mind as I put the event on the calendar months before. Dennis was the one who would drift with delight into my anticipatory thoughts as I am having my hair highlighted and planning what to wear, knowing we will laugh and laugh and tell stories and laugh and love the moments until it is time to fade for home. He had a rare talent, for introducing, for connecting each of us, and making me feel that I was his dearest and only-est friend .
 
My dear friend was human, he had his humanness of worries, expectations, and even fears of not being included or loved. But he masked these beautifully and pushed them aside with a well-begotten love for gatherings…. of all kinds. And he was really, really good at it, the perfect master of ceremony!! The fun was in the party, the theme, the event, the occasion but the point was to bring everyone into the room because they needed to know each other. Lasting friendships were made at Dennis’ events… and we all know this about him; but this week I learned more about the breadth of him. As I am preparing to attend his Memorial this weekend, feeling so so sad for missing him already, for missing my annual happy birthday call for the first time, for not having a second chance to make that call or have another photo taken of us having a fabulous time together. . .and as I am getting ready to go, I find my thoughts drifting on, and then back again to my excitement to see Dennis! Well, it’s an event and I always look for him at events; and after all, Dennis is the highlight of every event . . .And I then remember, knowing that I will always look for him, at every event.

All week long I have heard his voice in my head, seeing his one of a kind smile in my mind's eye. And forever I will remember and appreciate about him, his talent for making me feel like I am the one that is one of a kind, I am the reason he is having such a great time, I am the most special person in his life and I felt so important in his presence. Countless people that paid tribute to him this week echo my thoughts and there is a real talent there… I shall miss that about him.
 
Evidently, there are many of us who feel the very same way. As I arrived at his Memorial, one of three memorials for Dennis, the church was packed full of people who feel the same way that I do and this feeling is our gift from Dennis. It is that feeling of being loved and being valued that we all will take with us and that I will never forget.. By perfect design, my thoughts of him cause me to stop and think about my life and the legacy that I will leave to those dear to me. For certain, I know that John Lennon was right, the love you make is truly the love you take with you, and Dennis, you are off to a very good beginning.

Thank you my friend, just thank you.   

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