CoSozo Living

All articles

Leaf Water Droplet Reflection
Wed, October 1, 2014
How Can I Suspend Judgment?
Many, if not all of us wish to suspend judgment, but why? We believe that judgment is not good. It’s a problem. When we judge we cause ourselves untold amounts of suffering. We’ve heard that if we can look at our judgments and see them for what they are, we can eventually transcend judgment. We can reach a new level of consciousness that allows us to smile at so called “problems” and forgive so called “suffering”. Suspending judgment automatically leads to a happier, more fulfilling life. With practice, dedication, intention, and desire, we can cease to judge, which means we can cease to suffer. Is this true? Will suspending judgment lead to a happier life?

First, what are we really seeking to accomplish when we work to suspend judgment? What are we actually hoping for when we practice those things that will finally allow us to suspend judgment and be free of suffering? Let’s understand that the goal we are seeking is not suspension of judgment, happiness, or peace. The goal we are seeking has nothing to do with easing suffering, forgiving the world, or quieting the mind.

The real outcome we are seeking is recognition. If there is a goal at all, then that goal is to be recognized as something separate and independent. In other words, we want to be someone who suspends judgment. We want to make this separate and distinct “I” real, and if “I” can suspend judgment then this proves my separate existence. It proves that I’ve succeeded in separating myself within myself. This one seeking to suspend judgment is judgment. The separate and non-existent “I” is made of judgment.

Judgment is more than evaluating something as “good” or “bad”. Judgment is simply the activity of choosing, and choosing involves acceptance and rejection; which, then, results in loss. This is true when looking from the concept of “either/or”. With “either/or”, choosing means we gain while losing. We believe that to accept one thing is to reject another… thereby causing a separation. But this is not necessarily true. There’s another way of viewing this activity we call judgment.

Diunital cognition is the “both/while” way of seeing. Where “either/or” results in loss (either this or that), “both/while” sees no loss (both this while that). When we see from this perspective, judgment does not cause a separation within me. From diunital cognition we more easily see that judgment happens before we begin to qualify something as “good” or “bad” or “either/or”.

Belief in concepts like sight, sound, feeling, taste and thinking are judgments. Sight is the activity of choosing; the activity of both this, while that-- as are hearing, feeling, tasting, and thinking. We are made of these activities. We are made of sensing. We are made of judgment. And no one is doing it. No one is making a judgment, so there’s no one to suspend this activity.

Judgment is not bad, wrong, wicked, sinful, or evil. It’s what colors this world. It’s an extension of Source that is not separate from it but occurs as it. Let’s simply see this. Let’s notice what is actually happening. The attempt to suspend judgment is like water attempting to separate itself from the formula H2O in order to become H2O. Water can be “water” while being “H2O”.  All “water” need do is notice that it is H2O.

Similarly, noticing is all we need do as well. Look at this one who needs to suspend judgment to be happy. Look at this one who suffers because of judgment. Look at this one who needs to “do” in order to “be”. See that he or she is not there. See that this one is not necessary. With that seeing comes the realization that any form of judgment is not necessary… and the quest to suspend judgment is over.

More articles

Featured Contributors

Tyson Smith is a star 2015 CB from West Bloomfield, MI.  He is Mark Dantonio's #2 commitment for the 2015 recruiting class.
Sarah McLean is known as the face of contemporary meditation who has been teaching and writing about meditation and mind/body health since the early 9...
William Frank Diedrich is a speaker, executive coach, and the author of four books, including his latest: Adults at Work: How Individuals and Organiza...

Popular Articles

Full Blue Moon over Water
Have you ever gone to the doctor and felt like they were speaking another language when they were de...
A dog wags his tail from the heart.  A dog’s love is one of the most honest feelings.  They are neve...
Effective treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) requires an in-depth understanding of the...

Popular Blogs

I first became aware of the Rohingyas when I came to Thailand a few years ago. I don't know that I c...
Think back a moment when you were younger. You might have been in elementary or high school.  You're...
Today I set out for my old stomping grounds where my husband, Jim, and I used to stay in Bangkok, in...